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Matthew Shepards mother Judy Shepard shares her thoughts  and feelings on the 13th anniversary of her sons death.


Thirteen years ago this week his father, brother and I were at Poudre Valley Hospital in Fort Collins, Colo., with our firstborn son, Matthew Shepard. He was 21, and dying. Just days before, he had been just like millions of American college students whose names are not known to the world — getting the hang of his new classes, adapting to a new campus, making friends. His father and I thought his biggest challenges were keeping money in his checking account and getting his homework in on time.

But here he was in intensive care, the victim of a terrible, senseless attack at the hands of two other young men who, at some point in their lives, learned it was OK to hate others for being different, to victimize them, to disregard their humanity.

Matt passed away quietly in the early morning hours of Oct. 12, 1998, with his family at his bedside. He died because of violence fueled by anti-gay hatred. For a lot of reasons, some of which we will probably never quite understand, the world had been watching, praying for him, and voicing their outrage.

October cannot go by anymore, and never will again, without us wondering what might have been, for us and for so many other families, if hatred of gay, and lesbian, and bisexual, and transgendered people, and all those whom others simply think might be, had been rooted out long ago.

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The day before elections, Judge Walker, who is presiding over the federal challenge to Prop 8, held a hearing over a dispute concerning the proponents of Prop 8 and their unwillingness to hand over certain ordered internal campaign communications regarding messaging to the plaintiffs.

These documents are vital to the plaintiffs in their effort to prove that those responsible for Prop 8 are not concerned about the welfare of the state, traditional marriage or the weak argument of protecting procreation, but that they acted out of animus toward the LGBT population.

On November 11, Judge Walker ordered they hand over the documents, stating that they were not protected from disclosure.

Well, it gets better. They still haven’t handed over the documents. According to California attorney Rick Xiao at blog Proposition 8 and the Right to Marry:
Today Judge Walker dropped the hammer on Prop. 8 proponents and ordered immediate production of internal communications concerning their campaign strategies and messages to voters. Among other things, Judge Walker admonished Prop. 8 proponents that his previous discovery orders, while being appealed to the Ninth Circuit, remain in effect because the appellate court has not issued a stay. Thus, Prop. 8 proponents risk contempt of the court if they continue to withhold production. According to today’s order, Prop. 8 proponents are ordered to produce additional responsive documents on a rolling basis to conclude not later than the close of fact discovery on November 30, 2009.
Here is the copy of the order, an order he’s had to issue THREE TIMES:

Walker’s Order Compelling Production in Perry v. Schwarzenegger Filed 11-19-09

It really makes you wonder what’s in those documents and what it is they’re trying to hide at the risk of being thrown in jail for contempt.

This January trial is going to be good.

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This is something that the gay community completely forgets and to be honest it is PISSING ME OFF!

Rightly so, people are so concerned about gay marriage, but they forget the 40,000+ bi-national couples that gay marriage does jack shit for.

When a gay couple get married in one of those states that allow it, they do NOT get the 1500+ federal rights that heterosexuals get, one of those rights is immigration.

So who is fighting to get those rights?

Immigration Equality is a national organization that works to end discrimination in U.S. immigration law, to reduce the negative impact of that law on the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and HIV-positive people, and to help obtain asylum for those persecuted in their home country based on their sexual orientation, transgender identity or HIV-status. Through education, outreach, advocacy, and the maintenance of a nationwide network of resources, we provide information and support to advocates, attorneys, politicians and those who are threatened by persecution or the discriminatory impact of the law.

I urge you all to go to their website, check out the action center, some of the things you can do to help will take you 2 minutes and will cost you NOTHING!

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Gay.com 03-20-09

Wrestler won’t apologize for gay porn photos. And why should he? Last year, All-American wrestler Paul Donahoe (University of Nebraska) was booted from the University’s team after the University learned that Donahoe and a teammate posed nude for a gay website. Paul had been on his own as a young man since high school, and did the shoot for the $4K that he earned. He says he is straight (no reason to doubt him and it’s really quite irrelevant), and that he didn’t tell anyone about the shoot because he didn’t want the attention – just needed the money. Well, the University found out and took away his scholarship and booted him off the team. Paul sat out a semester, until getting a chance to transfer to Edinboro University in PA, where he is doing fantastically well. Paul refuses to ask for forgiveness or apologize for anything he did. And why in the hell should he? The NCAA claimed – and the University claimed – he broke rules of benefiting commercially from his image as a wrestler. So, he gave the money to a charity. And that should have been the end of it. There was zero reason to kick him off the team, and therefore zero reason for him to apologize. I am not alone in assuming that his ”real crime” here was being on a gay site instead of a straight site. That, I am sure, is what the University wanted him to apologize for. And good for him that he refuses to. As he says, he’s not gay, but he couldn’t care a less about it if he was, if someone else, whatever. He says he hears ignorant chants in the matches from opposing fans, and uses them to just motivate him to kick his opponents’ asses. Which he does all the time: he’s now ranked number one in the nation in his weight class. I hope he gets to take on someone from the University of Nebraska at nationals this year. And I hope he puts their head through the floor.

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This seems to be growing momentum since the defeat of Proposition 8 in CA.  I wonder who comes up with these lame-brain ideas?  Yes, let’s get the IRS all over us for not reporting/paying in our taxes.  If you get a return of money, you sure as hell are not going to protest!  Come on everyone!  Use your fucking heads, and come up with something better than this taxing proposal!

Gay tax revolt grows
by Matthew S. Bajko
Bay Area Reporter – edgeboston.com
Sunday Nov 23, 2008

Melissa Etheridge has written that she will not pay her state taxes in the wake of Prop 8’s passage.
Melissa Etheridge has written that she will not pay her state taxes in the wake of Prop 8’s passage.    (Source:Becky Sapp/Berliner Studio)

The stripping of marriage rights from same-sex couples in California is giving renewed attention to calls for a national gay tax protest.

A handful of LGBT activists have refused to pay any state or federal income taxes for several years now. They argue that since they are not treated equally under the law as their heterosexual neighbors, they should not have to fork over the money they owe to state or federal governments.

Their protest has largely gone unnoticed or unheeded by the majority of LGBT Americans – until now.

Two days after the passage of Proposition 8, the anti-gay constitutional amendment California voters passed November 4 that bans gays and lesbians from marrying in the Golden State, lesbian singer Melissa Etheridge penned a posting on the Daily Beast blog titled “You can forget my taxes.”

She wrote that she would be withholding the half a million dollars she owes the state in taxes this year and urged other LGBT people to do the same.

Because she and her wife, Tammy Lynn Michaels, are no longer afforded the same rights as other Californians under the state constitution, Etheridge wrote that, “Okay, so I am taking that to mean I do not have to pay my state taxes because I am not a full citizen. I mean that would just be wrong, to make someone pay taxes and not give them the same rights, sounds sort of like that taxation without representation thing from the history books.”

Etheridge’s stance has led to the creation of a Facebook group called “I will join Melissa Ethridge [sic] in refusing to pay CA taxes until I can marry!” San Francisco resident Emily Drennen, a bisexual who this summer married her wife, Lindasusan Ulrich, created the page.

Drennen did not respond to a request for comment. On the Facebook page she wrote, “Singer Melissa Etheridge rails against the passage of the same-sex marriage ban in California – and she won’t be paying the state a dime. This group is for Californian LGBTQI citizens and our allies who pledge to withhold paying our 2008 taxes unless our marriage rights are restored.”

As of Tuesday, only 19 people had signed up, many being residents of other states.

In July of this year John Bisceglia started writing at http://www.gaytaxprotest.blogspot.com/ about the idea for a national tax equality protest on April 15, 2009. The Bellingham, Washington resident wrote that he used to pay his taxes until he divorced his partner in 2005 and saw how the law mistreated gay couples.

In a statement he released in August, Bisceglia said he had “reached his limit” and would withhold his tax filings until the federal government grants all LGBT Americans and their children the 1,400-plus legal rights and protections civil marriage affords.

“The federal government’s discrimination against LGBT families is an abomination; it is cruel to deny our families a marriage certificate while simultaneously doling them out like candy to heterosexuals,” he stated. “My hope is that those in the LGBT community with substantial income demand their long overdue rights by taking a stand for justice, for society, and for equality for all Americans.”

Palm Springs resident Charles Merrill stopped paying his federal and state taxes four years ago after President Bush urged in his State of the Union speech for Congress to pass a federal amendment banning same-sex marriage in the U.S. Constitution. At the time he and his partner of 18 years, Kevin Boyle, were living on a farm in the mountains near Asheville, North Carolina.

Two years ago they moved to California and married this year. He has continued to withhold his federal and state income taxes and is suing the Internal Revenue Service. His lawsuit, Merrill vs. Commissioner of Internal Revenue, is scheduled to be heard by the U.S. Tax Court in San Diego sometime in 2009.

“My hope is that those in the LGBT community with substantial income demand their long overdue rights by taking a stand for justice, for society, and for equality for all Americans.”

Merrill, 75, is a cousin to the founder of Merrill Lynch & Co. He applauded Etheridge for shining a national spotlight on the gay tax protest. In an interview this week, he said he would gladly pay his taxes, but not before he is afforded the same rights as straight taxpayers.

“I want to pay taxes but I want to pay them as everyone else, not as a second-class citizen,” said Merrill. “I am really doing this for the 18,000 couples who got married in California and are denied all those rights.”

Should the tax protest snowball into a national movement, he said it would send a strong signal to President-elect Barack Obama to maintain his campaign pledge to repeal the federal Defense of Marriage Act, which has been used to justify discriminating against same-sex couples. Merrill noted that in Massachusetts, where same-sex marriage is still legal, and California prior to Election Day nearly 30,000 gay and lesbian couples have married, with more exchanging vows in Connecticut now that that state has enacted same-sex marriage.

At a time when governments are hurting for money, a gay tax revolt would have an impact, argued Merrill.

“I think it would be a wake-up call to President-elect Obama to get started on this, these promises he made us. It could turn into a economic problem if enough gays and lesbians stop paying taxes,” he said. “It is not extortion or anything, just a reminder of what he said he was going to do.”

Not everyone is jumping onto the tax protest bandwagon. Asked about Etheridge’s comments by Joy Behar last week on CNN, lesbian actress Cynthia Nixon said withholding her tax payments is “something I am not going to do.”

The Human Rights Campaign has not taken any official stance for or against the idea.

“The beauty of our movement is that people get the choice to practice civil disobedience in whatever way they wish,” said spokesman Brad Luna. “Obviously, we would encourage people to understand their personal responsibility that comes with practicing that civil disobedience. Nonetheless, we understand people are going to protest these anti-LGBT measures in their own way.”

Fred Karger, the founder of Californians Against Hate, which has organized against Prop 8, also took a measured stance when asked if he supported a gay tax revolt.

“I am supportive of every legal approach to get our equal rights. Certainly laws could be questioned and people can protest however they want to. It is a personal decision,” said Karger, who said he had no intention of not paying his own taxes. “You got a lot of angry people out there.”

An e-mail seeking comment from state Board of Equalization member Betty Yee was not returned by press time.

Of course anyone opting to join the tax revolt should take precautions should the taxman cometh.

Merrill said he has squirreled away the taxes he should have paid over the last four years in case of the day when he is ordered to hand over the money. He also does not own property and said he has moved a large part of his savings into gold coins, which are hidden away in a secret location – even his partner does not know the whereabouts.

“I put those in a private place that nobody could attack them,” he said.


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Most likely, you heard it here first! : )

Special US Rally announced for May 3

February 6, 2009 – http://gactupdate.wordpress.com/

A special rally will be held in Philadelphia on 3 May to push for gay rights in the US, reports Pink News. A gay equality rally has been given permission to be held at the Independence Hall in Philadelphia. The event takes place on a Sunday. The Independence Hall is associated with the declaration of Independence and the formation of the United States of America. The route of the march to the event also takes in sites of historical importance both to the US gay community and the wider US community.

Independence Hall, Philadelphia. Photo uncredited by Pink News

The March for Equality on Independence Mall will pass by Benjamin Franklin’s burial site, the US Mint, National Constitution Centre, Federal Reserve Bank, Federal Office Building, the Gay Pioneers Historic Marker, Liberty Bell Centre and Independence Hall.

Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell are where the Gay Pioneers held the first organised gay and lesbian civil rights demonstrations, called Annual Reminders, each Fourth of July from 1965 to 1969.

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It’s about time that another state steps forward and does the equally right thing to do!

posted Friday, January 30, 2009 – Volume 37 Issue 05

Senator Murray and Representative Pedersen introduce Domestic Partnership expansion bill
by Nick Ardizzone – SGN Staff Writer

On January 28, State Senator Ed Murray announced the next incremental expansion to Washington’s Domestic Partnership Bill. The latest expansion, which will be heard in the House and Senate on February 5, hopes to grant domestic partnerships all the remaining rights which were excluded from the first two bills, making civil unions equal to heterosexual marriage.

In attendance to support the bill were representatives for Equal Rights Washington, the ACLU of Washington, the Pride Foundation, and the Greater Seattle Business Association.

LEGISLATURE “ON BOARD”
Murray began the Olympia press conference by addressing the nation’s financial troubles. “Today, as in recent days, the economic news has grown darker and darker, and families across this nation have grown more and more insecure. If there was a theme for this session and a theme for this bill, that theme would be ‘family economic security.’”

He brightened when he spoke of the opposition to the domestic partnership bills. “The most remarkable thing about this bill is that it’s unremarkable,” said Murray. “Instead of the cultural wars that we have seen year after year, going back to the civil rights bill, we see a legislature that is mostly on board in moving forward and protecting all Washington’s families.” The bill has seen great support in the House.

Murray vowed to continue to fight for equality in Washington. “It’s not marriage, but it is everything that heterosexual families have in this state currently,” he said. “And while we need these protections, ultimately we will not be protected as Americans across this nation unless we achieve full marriage equality.”

Not all aspects of the bill will become active immediately. “Some of the financial impacts of this bill, such as pensions for those of us who are state employees, will be deferred to at least 2012, in hopes that by then that this very serious depression or recession & will have ended,” Murray said.

“EXACTLY THE SAME”
At the podium, State Representative Jamie Pedersen thanked Murray for his work in advancing the cause of marriage equality to its present state. “Two years ago, our families had no protection,” he said. “We were stunned by a Supreme Court decision that said that the legislature was free to offer no legal protections to our families.” This launched the work toward a comprehensive domestic partnership bill – a goal which is now within reach.

He explained how the first year of the domestic partnership bill focused on granting same-sex couples a basic 23 rights and obligations, while the second year dealt with economic and property rights. “This year, we’re repeating that process by adding nearly 300 rights and obligations & to make sure that our families are treated exactly the same.”

Nearly 5,000 couples from across Washington have registered with the Secretary of State’s office for partnerships.

VOICES FROM HOME
Pedersen introduced four Lesbian couples, several with children in tow, who spoke on the importance of the bill’s swift passage through the House and Senate.

“We’d like our daughter to grow up knowing that our family is as valued as any other family in our community,” said Margaret Hobart, who has been in a relationship with her partner for 20 years.

Police officer Adrienne Purcella rose with her partner, Libby Cope. “Should something ever happen to me on the job, with the passage of this bill, I now know Libby would be taken care of, and that she would have the same protections as any other police officer’s spouse,” Purcella said, her voice cracking with emotion.

Seattle attorney Vickie Wallin spoke, holding her 7-year-old son, Sam, in her arms. “Even though we’ll have equal rights, we won’t have full marriage equality until we have marriage equality,” she said. “It may not seem like a distinction of much difference, but today me and Sam were talking & and what he said was that if we’re not able to get married, what it’s really saying is that families with two moms or two dads, there shouldn’t be such families.

“We can do much better, she said. “What I’m really hoping is this last step will be the final step before full marriage equality for same-sex couples in our state.”

BRIEF DOORS OF OPPORTUNITY
“I have the honor this year of introducing the marriage bill in the house,” said Vancouver, WA Representative Jim Moeller, who spoke passionately about the bill. “I have 42 signatories – sponsors – at this time, which is unprecedented in the history of this legislature. We have, to a commendable extent, rallied together for the common good of all the citizens of our communities.”

“Men and women across Washington State have embraced a historic standard that discrimination based on a person’s sexual orientation has no place in this community. And now, we as Washingtonians must pull together for the further establishment of fair, common-sense principles that strengthen domestic partnership rights and offer benefits for same-sex couples.”

“Gay and Lesbian Americans in the past few years have entered into marriage through brief doors of opportunity, pledging their lives with and to one another,” he said. “Let’s be unambiguous in our discussion of this issue. Words are extremely important. Marriage is the word, and civil marriage is the goal.”

“What we know is what we’ve known for a long time: Separate is not equal, and we will go for equality.”

YEARS, NOT DECADES
In answering questions from the audience and press in attendance, Pedersen expounded on some of the new rights, which included death and pension benefits as well as “almost whimsical” new franchising and sea urchin fishing rights. About 100 of the 300 new rights have to do with public employees.

A member of the audience asked, “If this passes, what comes next?” “Marriage,” Murray said, laughing.

Pederson, smiling, stepped in to clarify. “The purpose of this legislation is to talk about how our families are harmed concretely by their exclusion from civil marriage, so that’s the conversation we expect to continue. We hope that, sooner rather than later, we’ll be here talking about a marriage bill.”

Murray, who has championed civil rights in Olympia for years, put the fight into perspective. “It will take some years, but it will not take the 29 years the civil rights bill took. I think this is a multi-year effort, not a multi-decade effort.”

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WTF-HAPPENED TO IAN THORPE?

The world is cruel when gay guys find out that a man who once had a killer body suddenly has the body of an average Joe. Why? Because they start talking about it and then it becomes widespread until pictures surface and end up on blogs like these.

And I’m certain that not only us gay guys are talking about this. Most people are wondering: What the fuck happened to Ian Thorpe? I suppose life after retiring isn’t all it’s cut out to be. At least, not if it’s going to end like this.

I’m not a fan of yours Ian but I commend you on your swimming, I mean, you’re amazing! But this picture is also amazingly bad! What happened?

You went from this (far right) to this! (top) Maybe you don’t have time to work out? Or is it that you’re hanging out with Daniel? Quite frankly, you should be touched I’m discussing you Ian because I’m a Phelps’ guy. Or wait, is this the result of what happened in Beijing? If it is, you should learn to accept it Ian, we have. And it’s freaking awesome!

So, we’re looking forward to when you go back to that hot body of yours. All the Aussie guys want you to and we want you to also. Just because I’m not a fan of your swimming, doesn’t mean I wasn’t a fan of your body!

And to see more pictures of what Ian is becoming, please go to Beauty and the Bum.

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This is just fucking hilarious, I laughed so hard I think I broke my uterus.

Thanks to Betty Bowers, homosexuals’ sneaky little secrets are now revealed to the godly:


THE HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA!

    As every Christian knows, there is only one enemy that threatens our entire civilization. And I am, of course, not talking about Satan. I’m talking about those damned homosexuals! Yes, they give otherwise dull hair radiant highlights and our imperfect décor those fabulous flourishes that elude our more predictable heterosexual sensibilities, but at what price? In exchange for a little panache, we allow homosexuals to steal our children and destroy our Christian marriages. And how do they do this? With their secret masterplan — The Homosexual Agenda!

    Many a well-intentioned person has asked me, “Betty, what exactly is The Homosexual Agenda?” Well, if you have to ask, you are probably already under its pernicious influence and blithely hop-scotching your way straight to Hell. Nevertheless, the details of The Homosexual Agenda have — up until this day — been kept more secret than the nature of John Travolta’s and Tom Cruise’s marriages. But I am pleased to announce that through innumerable free vodka sea-breezes and some artful Christian skullduggery, I have gotten my hands on an authentic copy of The Homosexual Agenda. Praise the Lord!

    I have had my secretaries, Miss Anne Thrope and Anita Priceczech, transcribe The Homosexual Agenda from the back of a used cocktail napkin (the original is to be placed in the Smithsonian Institute) for your convenient reference. Never again shall we be surprised by what these malevolent Nancy Boys are up to. While they may still be able to surprise us with a cunningly perfect piece of Chinese porcelain for our Biederimeier end-table, they will never again be able to surreptitiously take over our culture, families and prime-time television without God-fearing Christians being one step ahead of them! Praise the Lord!


The Homosexual Agenda

    8:00 a.m. Wake up. Wonder where you are.
    8:01 a.m. Realize you are lying on 100 percent cotton sheets of at least a 300 count, so don’t panic; you’re not slumming.

    8:02 a.m. Realize you are actually in your own bed for a change. Wake stranger next to you and tell them you are late for work so won’t be able to cook breakfast for them. Mutter “sorry” as you help him look for his far-flung underwear. You find out that you tore his boxers while ripping them off him last night, so you “loan” him a pair of boxer-briefs, but not the new ones because you never intend to see him again.

    8:05 a.m. Tell the stranger, whose name eludes you, “It was fun. I’ll give you a call,” as you usher him out the door, avoiding his egregious morning-breath.

    8:06 a.m. Crumple and dispose of the piece of paper with his telephone number on it when you get to the kitchen.

    8:07 a.m. Make a high protein breakfast while watching the Today show. Wonder if the stories you’ve heard about Matt Lauer are true. Decide they must be.

    8:30 a.m. Italian or domestic? Decide to go with three-button Italian and the only shirt that is clean.

    8:45 a.m. Climb into red Z4 and try not to look too much like Barbie driving one of her accessories as you pull out of your underground parking. Revos or Armanis? Go with Revos.

    9:35 a.m. Stroll into office.

    9:36 a.m. Close door to office and call best friend and laugh about the guy who spent the night at your condo. Point out something annoying about best friend’s boyfriend but quickly add “It doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks, just as long as you love him.”

    10:15 a.m. Leave office, telling your secretary you are “meeting with a client.” Pretend not to notice her insubordinate roll of her eyes (or the cloying “poem” she has tacked to her cubicle wall).

    10:30 a.m. Hair appointment for lowlights and cut. Purchase of Aveda anti-humectant pomade.

    11:30 a.m. Run into personal trainer at gym. Pester him about getting you Human Growth Hormone. Spend 30 minutes talking to friends on your cell phone while using Hammer Strength machines, preparing a mental-matrix of which circuit parties everyone is going to and which are now passe.

    12:00pm Tan. Schedule back-waxing in time for Saturday party where you know you will end up shirtless.

    12:30 p.m. Pay trainer for anabolic steroids and schedule a workout. Shower, taking ten minutes to knot your tie while you check-out your best friend’s boyfriend undress with the calculation of someone used to wearing a t-back and having dollars stuffed in their crotch.

    1:00 p.m. Meet someone for whom you only know his waist, chest and penis size from AOL M4M chat for lunch at a hot, new restaurant. Because the maître d’ recognizes you from a gay bar, you are whisked past the Christian heterosexual couples who have been waiting patiently for a table since 12:30.

    2:30 p.m. “Dessert at your place.” Find out, once again, people lie on AOL.

    3:33 p.m. Assume complete control of the U.S., state, and local governments (in addition to other nations’ governments); destroy all healthy Christian marriages; recruit all children grades Kindergarten through 12 into your amoral, filthy lifestyle; secure complete control of the media, starting with sitcoms; molest innocent children; give AIDS to as many people as you can; host a pornographic “art” exhibit at your local art museum; and turn people away from Jesus, causing them to burn forever in Hell.

    4:10 p.m. Time permitting, bring about the general decline of Western Civilization and look like you are having way too much fun doing it.

    4:30 p.m. Take a disco-nap to prevent facial wrinkles from the stress of world conquest and being so terribly witty.

    6:00 p.m. Open a fabulous new bottle of Malbec.

    6:47 P.M. Bake Ketamine for weekend. Test recipe.

    7:00 P.M. Go to Abercrombie & Fitch and announce in a loud voice, “Over!”

    7:40 P.M. Stop looking at the photographic displays at Abercrombie & Fitch and go to a cool store to begin shopping.

    8:30 p.m. Light dinner with catty homosexual friends at a restaurant you will be “over” by the time it gets its first review in the local paper.

    10:30 p.m. Cocktails at a debauched gay bar, trying to avoid alcoholic queens who can’t navigate a crowd with a lit cigarette in one hand and a Stoli in a cheap plastic cup in the other. Make audible remark about how “trashy” people who still think smoking is acceptable are.

    12:00 a.m. “Nightcap at your place.” Find out that people lie in bars, too.

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WTF!!  This so-called gay-friendly mother is so full of fucking shit that if someone slapped her in the face she would spit out a turd!  I don’t know how many times I have heard “I have gay friends” while the person cuts down gays and lesbians.  If this mother-fucking mother would have been a decent parent and kept her fat ass away from the heroin then this would not even be an issue.  This may come as a shocker to everyone:  gay guys are not out to “convert” boys into being gay or perverse boys either!  Two dads are better than one damn dead-beat mother who cannot keep her nose or arms clean!  This woman should be ashamed of herself for denouncing gay couples with children who just simply want to raise a kid, since they don’t have any fucking ovaries!…Bitch!!

By Jonathan Brocklebank and Michael Seamark – dailymail.co.uk
Last updated at 4:44 PM on 29th January 2009

The mother of two children who are being adopted by gay men even though their grandparents want to care for them wept yesterday as she told of her final meeting with her son and daughter.

‘I told them, “Listen, Mummy is not going to see you for a while”,’ she said. Her son replied: ‘But Mummy, I want to come and stay with you and Granny and Grandad.’

The row over the future of the five-year-old boy and four-year-old girl intensified yesterday after the Daily Mail revealed details of the heartbreaking case. Their
grandparents spent two years fighting for the right to care for the children, whose 26-year-old mother is a recovering heroin addict. She desperately wanted her parents to look after them.

The children's mother with her parents on Wednesday

Heartbroken: The children’s mother with her parents on Wednesday

But social workers said their ages – he is 59 and she is 46 – and their health – he has angina and she is diabetic – ruled them out.

The mother told the Mail that she had been ordered to say her goodbyes to the children last August during a trip to Edinburgh Zoo. ‘They told me not to cry and be strong so as not to upset the children,’ she said. ‘How can you tell a mother that when she’s never going to see her children again?’

‘I did not under any circumstances want my children to be placed with gay men. I wanted them to have a mum and a dad.

‘They can’t be telling me that, within a 60-mile radius, the only people they could find to look after my children were two men.

‘I’ve got nothing against gay people. I’ve got gay friends, but children need a mum and a dad, not a dad and another dad.

‘I’m ashamed of what I’ve done, especially what I’ve put mum and dad through because they have been brilliant every step of the way.

‘My children deserve so much love and my mum and dad were prepared to give them it, but social work snatched them away.

‘They are a mum and dad in a million and I know they would have brought my children up brilliantly.’

The mother also revealed that social workers have asked her to meet the gay couple under their supervision. But she will not see her children – or be allowed to know where they are going to be living.

The Mail revealed yesterday how the grandparents had fought a relentless battle for the right to look after the youngsters after deciding their daughter was unfit to do so.

But they were opposed every step of the way by Edinburgh’s social work department, which believed they should go to an adoptive family.

When the grandparents eventually caved in to what they describe as ‘bully tactics’ by the social workers, the department arranged for the children to be adopted by a gay couple in the Edinburgh area. They had already decided that, whatever the outcome of the battle, the children should not see their mother owing to her unstable lifestyle and history of offences.

Recalling her final, 90-minute meeting with her children, the mother said: ‘I was told that this would be the last time. They asked me to pick a place to take them and I decided on the zoo. The social worker was with me and kept saying to me I would have to tell them I was not going to see them any more and that I had to stay strong for their sakes.

‘At one point she said that my son was the spitting image of my mum and my daughter looked like her grandad. What kind of thing is that to say at a moment like that, when I’m about to tell them I won’t see them again?

‘I told them that I loved them and I would write them lots of letters and cards and that they would be going to a new house soon.

‘I got really upset and had to keep turning away so that they didn’t see me crying. The social worker said, “Just leave it there”. Ten minutes later, that was it.’

But the mother still had to help put the children in the social worker’s car. ‘My son grabbed me tightly on the leg and and would not let me go. It was just absolutely devastating.’

She said that the heartrending last meeting had happened while her parents were still fighting for full parental rights for the brother and sister, who have been staying with foster parents for the last two years pending a decision on their future.

Her parents’ last meeting with the children came two months later in October. By then, under mounting pressure from the social work department and concerned about months or years of further disruption to their lives, they had taken the agonising decision to withdraw from the legal fight.

The grandfather, a farm worker, and his wife say the social work department are effectively blackmailing them by telling them they will not see the children again unless they give the new adoptive arrangements their blessing.

Although the family desperately want to reverse the adoption procedure they do not now know how they can. Their previous solicitor has moved to a new job and would
be unable to represent them in her current role. They would also need to reapply for legal aid before taking any action – and time is running out.

The children have already had several meetings with the men who are soon to become their full-time fathers. They are understood to be seeing them for a few hours daily and have recently visited their home. The men are giving them a bedroom each – and the girl’s has been decked out with a ‘princess’ bedspread. The children have also been shown the wellington boots waiting for them at the back door when they want to play outside.

Under the adoption procedure, the children will see more and more of the gay couple, spending occasional nights in their home, until they move in permanently. The social work department will remain in contact with the new parents for the first year of adoption – then, providing there are no serious problems, contact will cease.

Thereafter the only official channel the children’s natural family will have for making contact with them would be through an adoption agency. The mother said: ‘The
social worker told me the kids are getting on really well with them. My daughter had apparently said to the social worker, “Come up and see my princess bed”. I just feel totally devastated.

Now they want me to meet the men. Social work phoned me to ask how I was feeling now about them being adopted by a gay couple and if I had calmed down.

‘They told me that out of the couples they had on their books they were the ones who were able to cater for their needs best. I find that very hard to believe. I’ll have to say
that to them when I meet them because it’s how I feel, but I don’t want the whole thing to become an argument. I will have lots of questions to ask them.’

Councillor Marilyne MacLaren, convener for education, children and families at Edinburgh City Council, said: ‘I have been assured that the professional view is that
the adoptive couple will provide a safe, secure and loving environment for these children.

‘These are always very complex cases but I think it is important to say that the grandparents have been fully involved in discussions about this case over a period of
time.’

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